Celebration of a life well lived….

It was the day of the funeral today. Sadly my brother in law passed away in March and he is a big loss, no doubt. He has been part of our family since 1969. 50 years….and today around 200 people attended the service.

It was of course, highly emotional. The strain of the last few months told as the tears flowed from me, like a tap running. I just couldn’t hold it in any longer. But there were laughs too of the fun times, the good times, and that’s how I want to remember him. Not the pale shadow of a man I saw ten days before his passing. I want to remember the banter, the mickey taking and the discussions about football, which was a big part of his life.

What kind of man was my brother in law? A devoted family man, decent, honest, gentle and kind, and he was like that to everyone who knew him. He knew how to laugh and to mercilessly take the mickey out of my sister, which he got down to a fine art. The exchanges when we had dinner together were very amusing, but full of love as well. A rock solid marriage that lasted nearly 44 years. I remember being a pageboy at their wedding, aged 3. I wore a velvet waistcoat that made me look like a snooker player!

He will be missed by all of us, that’s for sure. The reality of his passing hit home today. But it was a great service and 200 people in attendance was testimony to his affable nature and popularity. He will be up in heaven now, having been accepted at St. Peter’s Gate. His room will have pictures of his family, pictures of his beloved football team, Tottenham, a big TV so he can watch his team, and a room with plenty of beer. He will then be at peace.

A tough day for the family, and it was good to see some of my aunts, uncles and cousins there. More difficult times lay ahead in the months to come, but strength in adversity is the key. I could fold up and wither away, or I can face some tough challenges.

My brother in law never shirked from a challenge and he had an admirably positive outlook on life. I hope I can emulate that and be as popular as him in life.

A.S.D Brooks

Author: allenbrooks44

44 year old adult living with Autism...